Recently, we received a note on our blog’s contact form from Brooke Smith. She’s 34 years old, has two children and lives in Meridian, Mississippi. Her experience is an example of what author and psychiatrist Bernard Beitman calls simulpathity – feeling another’s distress at a distance.
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Hi my name is Brooke Smith and I am 34 years old. I recently came across an article on planetary empaths that I found to be interesting. I have had a similar experience and wanted to share with you and get your opinion on what happened to me.
I will begin by saying I have always been intuitive and often have random thoughts or flashes of events that later happen. In April, 2012, my mother was brutally murdered, along with two others. I was very close to my mother until a few months before her death. She was involved with a man who I believe was evil. He murdered her and his own parents.
My mother was killed after midnight on April 6, 2012, making it April 7 in actuality. She was a nurse and had injured her back working. She also started having kidney stones and various other health problems and I believe he was making her physically sick.
On April 6, I got home from work and was bent over looking at the newspaper when I got a catch or something in my back. I began having pain like I’ve never before felt. I’m perfectly healthy and have never had back problems. I was able to get to my bed and could do nothing except roll in bed, writhing in pain. I literally thought I was going to die. This went on until about 3:00 a.m. and then stopped as suddenly as it started. I’ve never had another issue with my back. It was odd to me and I wonder if somehow I was able to feel the pain my mother was in at that time. Investigators believe it was about 3:00 a.m. when she died. We didn’t find out she was dead until the evening of the 7th, about 8:30 p.m.
The man who murdered my mother was named Anthony Garrett. The evening of April 7, 2012, he climbed a 300-foot cell tower and fell or jumped. Before he fell or jumped, he had been screaming at a crowd of onlookers that he had killed his family. But I’m not sure he acted alone in the murders and have several reasons.
I worked for an attorney’s office from 2008 to 2013 as a legal secretary. Since my mother was killed, I can’t focus or stay on task. There are a million thoughts, ideas , and flashes going thru my head all the time. I sense how others feel….I guess that’s what it is. I’m always anxious, nervous, and edgy. I haven’t been holding it together very well. I’m separated from my husband now. We were together since 1999 and got married in 2011.
Please help. I can’t get past my mother’s death and have so many unanswered questions.
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I was struck by the similarities between Brooke’s experience and that of Bernard, who began choking at the same moment that his father choked to death on the other side of the country. I sent Bernard Brooke’s story and he replied, Yes, sounds like simulpathity for sure!
I asked Brooke if she had felt her mother’s presence at any time since her murder. She replied:
You asked if I felt my mother’s presence……I do not. I look for signs in everything…..this has nearly pushed me past the breaking point, yet I feel as if my purpose is to dig deeper and gain every bit of knowledge and insight that comes my way. Feel free to share my story if you’d like. Also, before my mother was killed I always had the most vivid dreams. I could recall them also. Since her death I’ve had no dreams that I can recall. I’m not sure I can dream anymore.
Thanks for reading this and trying to help.
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Does anyone have any insights that might help Brooke?
I haven’t had anything this dramatic happen to me, but when my mom died I had spent most of a month in her hospital room. Her last night I was so tired a lay on the floor asleep. My wife and sister-in-law were with me so I felt safe going to sleep.
I woke up suddenly, stood up and witnessed her taking her last breath.
That dramatic, Ray, just in a different way! At least you were with her when she passed.
I cannot offer any words of advise. But I do think that to be able to be in such close contact with another can only imply that a deep love and respect flows between them. I pray you find peace and clarity soon.
Brooke, first of all, please know and accept that your feelings are natural and understandable. Losing a parent is difficult under ANY circumstances. Losing a parent as a result of sudden, unexpected violence is an almost intolerable trauma to a child’s heart and soul and entire life, regardless of the age of the child, adult or otherwise. As a born medium and empath like Jane, I’ve lived with one foot in the land of the Living and one foot in the land of the so-called “dead” all my life. I pray that what I am about to say might assist you toward finding Peace……During the years, many folks who are In Spirit have explained to me that often when a person DOES die unexpectedly and violently, that person’s Soul is released into what they refer to as a “Recovery Dimension”, similar to our hospital recovery rooms. While in that Spirit recovery dimension, the Soul “sleeps deeply”; the concept of Time does not exist There; and each sleeping Soul remains in that recovery dimension until it, the Soul itself, stirs into wakefulness, having been ‘cleansed and healed’ during that deep sleep and is finally ready to move forward toward its special spiritual dimension, where it will continue on with Life there.
During its sleep time, the Soul does not make contact with loved ones left behind, just as an incarnate person doesn’t communicate with anyone as he or she is under the influence of anesthesia. May I offer a suggestion? Perhaps you might find a photo of your MOM that you especially like, and gaze into her face, speak in your mind or even out loud to her; tell her how much you miss her and love her; use whatever thoughts and words flow most easily from within you. Your love will reach her even in her sleeping time, and eventually you will receive some type of awareness of her Presence. In OUR concept of Time, it may be soon, or not so soon. But she WILL ‘hear” you, and ultimately, her Soul will respond when it is able, is a manner that you will KNOW beyond any shadow of a doubt that it is her, and that she is whole and well and loves you.
Meanwhile, do everything within your power to release any sense of guilt you may be experiencing regarding the entire situation. I know that is terribly difficult. But you are not to blame, Brooke. Peace and healing will come to you as you are able to truly allow yourself to KNOW you are not to blame . As you heal, your Mom will heal exponentially with you, and you will have a wonderful inter-dimensional relationship! That will be such a wonderful, beautiful process. Be open to all the Love that is yours from The Other Side, surrounding you in the Light of other loved ones who have crossed over. May you very soon embrace the love you remember sharing with your Mom in the past. You will have it again!
Thank you for that comment, was useful for me.
PS After I wrote my comment, I got to thinking about how if you had actually been there, physically, as your mom died, you might have felt emotional pain that was equivalent (or even greater) than the physical pain you felt. But you didn’t know what was happening at the time. So the loving connection between you may have transformed the emotional agony you would have felt into an equal physical agony you *could* feel even without knowing what was happening to her. Just a thought. Best wishes and relief to you!
I’ve experienced a handful of times when I took someone else’s pain into my own body and felt glad of it, because it felt as if I were taking their pain for a few moments in order to give them relief from it. After one such instance, the person in question was completely and instantly cured of long-time insomnia. He woke the next morning, smiling hugely, and saying, “I haven’t slept that well in months!” The insomnia did not return. (I had not told him of my experience of his distress inside my body.) I should probably say that I didn’t ask for that experience, except in the unconscious way of wanting relief for him. I should also say that I’m not talking about mere sympathy here, I’m talking about the full taking in and actual feeling of the pain in someone else’s body, just as you felt in your back. I was walking down a hallway, near where he slept, and the experience hit me, without warning. I felt it totally, and then it passed. Luckily, I had a sense of what might be happening, so I didn’t have to experience the fear you went through when you got hit with pain that came seemingly out of nowhere.
I offer this as a thought that although the pain was terrible for you, maybe by taking it, you gave your mom some relief in her dying moments. If that might be true, then you did a lovely, brave, and generous thing for her. Perhaps you can find some relief for yourself in considering that as a possibility. You might also consider it a blessing that the pain connected you with her even after a time of disconnection. In the last moments of her life, you were together, with you easing some (or even possibly all) of her physical pain.
Thanks, Nancy!
As you know Trish & Rob, I felt the pain & shock of the murder of a woman a mile away who I didn’t know, I was shocked & distressed for weeks after & the police said I knew details of the murder I cd not have known. For 40 years I have had precognition of the death of friends & loved ones, in some cases when they have been misdiagnosed with something minor. The most recent being the approaching death of my dearest friend and soul sister of 40 years 6 months before she was diagnosed. I also feel the death as it happens because my breathing changes as theirs does & I seem to have an out of body role to help them pass.Therefore I understand well the pain & shock & impact of this &
my heart goes out to Brooke.May she be blessed with a miraculous solution & healing love.
Even though Brooke was estranged from her Mother At the time of death that doesn’t have to be the case now her Mother has passed, they can heal from this & return to the closeness & love they shared previously. This is entirely possible.
As an empath who also feels earthquakes & planetary disasters coming I have learned at 63 how to handle these events better. If we are pulled into the shock & despair our vibration lowers to that of the terrifying event, if we learn how to move into compassion we raise the vibration for the many souls leaving. Since humanity is one heart, one mind we do feel the predominant emotions in the whole collective & as a sensitive being aware of it are given the role of spiritual helpers.
It maybe that Brooke is so very shocked although she dreams she blocks the memories as too painful, although dreams and nightmares are an opportunity for clearing/ healing the shocks of this lifetime or others.
If Brooke would like to e mail me please pass on my details & I am willing to assist if intuitively she feels I can an help her. I only offer help if intuitively I feel that I can . May she be guided to the person who can best assist her.
Love & Blessings x
I’ll let her know, Jane. Thanks!
Good morning and thank you for taking the time to try to help me. This has been so difficult for myself, as well as my family and many others. Jane, I appreciate your willingness to try to help me get through this horrific event, which changed my life forever. Please just tell me what I need to do. I’m willing to do whatever You ask of me. My Mother was the glue that held my family together. Since her murder, my life has changed drastically and it has not been for the better. I don’t know how to move on, although it seems most everyone else has. Thank you again for even taking the time to read my story.
Sounds like a very difficult situation to be in.
I couldn’t imagine what my life would be like if my mother was murdered,even though I do believe in life after death,my life would certainly go into a tail spin.
I would probably try to get a psychic’s feedback about my mother from a guy like this guy in this post –
https://brizdazz.blogspot.com.au/2015/06/believe-itor-notthis-clip-is-worth.html
or this guy
https://www.jeffreywands.com/bio/
Whether that would help though, I couldn’t say.
Thanks for the link, Daz. I’ll make sure she sees it.
Hello Darren. Thank you so much for your suggestions. I have been lost without my Mother. It’s so ironic…..the way this all happened. My Mother was so strong……she didn’t tolerate nonsense and didn’t let anyone take advantage of her. She was smart too. It’s still almost unreal. I will definitely follow up with your suggestions. Thanks again.
Thank you so much Rob and Trish for hearing me and for your kindness and understanding.
We’ll leave the post up another day, Brooke. I sent you Jane’s email address.