Are you a borderland personality?

Posted on April 8, 2010 by Trish and Rob

We’ve written lately about people who detect earthquakes and other natural disasters ahead of time through physical symptoms and changes in their bodies.We’ve referred to these people as planetary empaths. Now D Page recommended  a book by Jerome S. Bernstein called: Living in the Borderland: The Evolution of Consciousness and the Challenge of  Healing Trauma.

Berstein describes his book this way: “There are many people whose experience of reality is outside the mainstream of Western culture; often they see themselves as abnormal because they have no articulated frame of reference for their experience. The concept of the Borderland personality explains much of their experience.”

So we’re wondering how many visiting here consider themselves to fit the borderland personality. Keep in mind the distinction between borderline and borderland personality. The former is a pathology; the latter, possibly an evolutionary personality. As you’ll see, some of the traits fit closely with the experiences of the planetary empaths.

In fact, we’ve already shown the following list of trait to those who wrote that  they felt the recent Mexican-S.Callifornia quake coming. All of them said that they related closely with most of the trails. Two said all of the traits fit. See what you think.

   1. Borderland personalities have a deep and primary connection to nature. Most are more comfortable in relationship with animals than with people.
   2. All have transformational experiences such as communicating with plants and animals and somatic identification with earth’s suffering.
   3. Many have experienced trauma as children or adults. Many have not.
   4. Unlike the Borderline personality, the Borderland personality has a stable identity.
   5. Most hide their Borderland nature – often including from their therapist — for fear of being branded “crazy” or weird. This leads to living parallel and camouflaged lives — their hidden life in the Borderland (which is their primary identification), and their life in the mundane world.
   6. Most feel isolated and lack a sense of community and belonging because they  are unaware that there are many others like them.
   7. All experience their Borderland reality as sacred.
   8. Most tend to be hypersensitive on the somatic level. Many experience  environmental illness. But, many do not.
   9. 100% of all Borderland personalities with whom I have had contact say they  would not give up that connection if they could – even if it were to diminish their suffering.
  10. Although many would identify with being Nature’s “canaries,” most are at a loss as to the imperative for transformation that they have been given



For more about borderlanders, you can go to Berstein’s site.


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Another Car Manifestation

Posted on April 7, 2010 by Trish and Rob

 

On March 22, we posted a story about manifestation. There were some cool comments from people who also had manifested  One of the best stories came  from Sansego. He has posted numerous comments on this blog. This story is such a terrific example of “be careful what you wish for” that we decided to make it a post.
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In 1994, when I was living in Italy and moving back to the U.S., I thought about buying a car for my final year in the Navy. My choice was either a Geo Metro or a Saturn Sl1. By the end of the year, I had become friends with a guy (who’s still my best friend today) who was selling his Geo Metro, so I bought it from him for $4,000.

I had the car for 18 months and paid it off after a year. In May 1996, I was running an errand for a guy who was running for Congress. It was hot and my Metro did not have air condition or a radio/cassette player. I remember thinking that day how nice it would be to have air condition and a cassette deck to blast my music on. While waiting at a stoplight at the bottom of a hill, next to the VA hospital, a Jeep Cherokee came speeding down the hill and rear ending my car. The Metro was totaled and I was devastated.

In my search for a new car, I decided that I wanted a Ford Escort or a Saturn SL1…that had A/C, a cassette deck, a sunroof, and stick shift. As I passed by a Saturn dealership, I had the strangest urge to turn around and check it out. I didn’t think they would have any in my price range (under $8,000), but I asked. The lady took me to the one car they had for that amount…and it was a Saturn SL1 with sunroof, cassette deck, A/C, and stick shift! It was $7,800 and the miles were around 85,000, which was how many miles my Metro accumulated until the accident.

When I got my check from the insurance company, they paid $200 more than what I paid for the Metro. So, my wish in 1994 for either a Metro or a Saturn SL1 came true with both cars.

I’ve been carless since 2002, though, after my Saturn died. I’d love a Scion tC, but I’m not putting any energy into “car manifestation” as I want other things more, that I can’t seem to manifest.

It is probably my first clear example of getting exactly what I desired…twice!

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Empaths Among Us

Posted on April 6, 2010 by Trish and Rob

 

On March 11, we posted Planetary Empaths, about individuals who feel physical and emotional symptoms before an earthquake occurs. These symptoms are unpleasant, painful, and flat out disturbing. But they seem to indicate that these empaths are intimately connected to the planet’s internal rumblings. One of the challenges for these individuals is figuring out where the quake – or other natural disaster – will occur.

Not surprisingly, a day after the 7.2 quake in Mexicali, we heard from several people who don’t know each other but know us, describing their symptoms in uncannily similar ways.  A rather unnerving synchronicity!
Connie Cannon and d page were both in our March 11 post.  Jenacide commented on the Mexicali post, describing her experience. Tonight, we got an email from healing mudras, who is in Laos rather than Bangkok, where she lives. She described her symptoms before the quake.

We’ve put together a list of physical and emotional symptoms that seem to be most common based on the experiences of these individuals and of others who have experienced similar symptoms.

– a ringing in the ears. It seems to be long and sustained, sometimes high pitched, and may be specific to one ear
– disorientation. A feeling of being disconnected from your body
-nausea, a sense that the earth is rolling and undulating beneath you
– pronounced imbalance
– great fatigue
-dizziness, headaches
– disturbed sleep
-plugged ears
-crying for no apparent reason, feelings of deep sadness, despair, chaos
– sense of malaise
-inability to function normally
– waking from a sound sleep, alert, rapid heartbeat, “feeling it in my body.”
This last symptom came from a young man, Jon, who is a friend of d’s. In an email, he wrote: “How about this, I know when earthquakes are going to happen too. If I’m asleep, I’ll wake up and be completely alert. No waking up half asleep, instead, I’m completely awake and alert. I then feel it in my body and my heart beats a bit faster and then a few minutes later, earthquake. That’s how I felt yesterday when I was playing video games with my cousin before it happened. At first I thought it was the game, which was very funny to me.”

Vivid dreams and nightmares occur days or weeks before the quake or disaster and often contain powerful symbols. For Connie Cannon, for example, songs and lyrics as well as numbers are extremely important. Before the Baja quake, she dreamed the songs, “South of the Border” and “Down by the Riverside.” The south of the border reference is now obvious. She believes the riverside reference is Riverside, California, where the quake was felt. Connie is also a numerologist, so numbers are powerful dream symbols for her as well. Several days before the quake, she dreamed of the numbers 33 and 44 repeatedly. As she pointed out in a subsequent email, earthquake resonates to 44 and Mexico resonates to 33, so it was all given to her, even the place, but she didn’t connect the dots.

D’s symbols are best expressed here, where she describes a dream image that required research.
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Rob and I were speculating that perhaps this sensitivity to what the planet is about to do is an evolutionary step for humans. I mentioned this to D, too, and she wrote: “I was wondering if  what is described in Jerome Bernstein’s Living in the Borderland is what we are witnessing. Similar to your idea, he states that what he calls  “borderland consciousness” is “an evolutionary dynamic that is moving the western psyche to reconnect our overspecialized ego to it’s natural psychic roots. It is my view that we are all in the grip of this unfolding. Indeed,it is possible that our very survival as species Homo Sapiens may depend on the shift that is taking place.” (page 9)

Food for thought.

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Lady in the Mirror

Posted on April 5, 2010 by Trish and Rob

Gypsy posted a remark under a story we had posted about orbs. It’s a good one and we didn’t want it to get lost in comments.
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I must have been about 12 years old at the time and we were living in Winnfield,  Louisiana, a little “courthouse square” southern town where everyone knows everyone else. We were living across the street from my paternal grandmother. One day she and my aunts were discussing the death of a lady who had died at her home. Her  family planned a home wake, but just after her death [in her own bed], there appeared on her bureau/dresser mirror an image – an image in color – that was the exact image of the lady as she lay in her deathbed.

This event left the family in a state of concern as to whether or not they should  still have the wake at home. By then, word of this “miracle” had spread to my  grandmother’s home where it was the subject of conversation. I was somehow allowed to attend the wake and will never forget it. The casket was  set up in the living room and the house was full of people. After we paid our respects in the living room, we were allowed to view the mirror  in the woman’s bedroom.

And there it was, here it was, a big round mirror in a wooden frame and in the center of the mirror  was the colored image of this lady as she lay in bed. Funny, how I remember the colors of pink and lavender. Some people went up to the mirror and tried to rub the image off but it didn’t budge.

It was the talk of town for a long time afterward. I don’t remember ever hearing that the image had faded or gone away. but it certainly has not faded from my own  memory.

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7.2 Quake Mexicali

Posted on April 5, 2010 by Trish and Rob

This afternoon, there was a 7.2 quake in Mexicali, Mexico. When I was reading about the aftershocks felt in L.A, I wondered if some of the planetary empaths we wrote about in a March 11 post had felt anything.

This evening, I dropped by d page’s blog. She’s one of these empaths we wrote about. Her account of the quake is vivid. And yes, she apparently felt it beforehand.Read her account here.

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Easter Lillies: Nature’s Synchros

Posted on April 4, 2010 by Trish and Rob

 About 95 percent of the 11 million Easter lillies sold each year are bought during Easter week. Most are grown in Oregon and California. They’re usually in bloom by Easter Sunday because their bulbs are “forced” in greenhouses, which means their environmental conditions are constantly adjusted so the flower blooms in the spring rather than during the summer.  After an Easter lilly has bloomed once, you can plant it outside and it will then bloom as nature dictates, during the summer.

 So four years ago, we bought an Easter lilly and after it had bloomed, planted it along the fence in our garden. Every year as Easter approaches, we wonder if it will bloom again. Easter, after all, doesn’t always fall on the same date and can vary by as much as five weeks.  But invariably, year after year, this beautiful plant is in bloom in our garden by Easter Sunday. This year, we’ve had an unusually cold winter for Florida and Easter falls on April 4. Two weeks ago, the buds were hard to find and it seemed impossible that the flowers would bloom by Easter.

Here’s a photo of it on Palm Sunday, March 28. It certainly looks as if it’s going to be in bloom again by Easter Sunday! So how does it know when Easter is?

The last photo was taken this morning, Easter morning  The lillies are in full and glorious bloom.

                                                          


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Play Ball

Posted on April 3, 2010 by Trish and Rob

Baseball season starts tomorrow and so a foul ball synchronicity from a few days ago is in order here. On March 31, during a spring training game in Tampa against the Yankees, Minnesota Twin lead-off hitter Denard Span hit a line-drive foul into the stands striking a fan in the chest who was wearing a Denard Span jersey. That’s a synchronicity in itself. But who was wearing his jersey? His mother!

In preparing this post on the day of that incident, I looked up Span in Wikipedia, and found this surprising comment. “He bats and throws left-handed and is known for his exceptional speed and his ability to hit relatives with line-drive foul balls.” What? Was that there before he hit his mother? My guess is that some quirky, quick-witted trickster had just added that last bit to the Wiki entry.Or maybe he has a very large extended family that likes going to his games.

There’s more. I first learned of Span’s feat from Keith Olbermann who mentioned it in his Oddball segment that same day. Olbermann noted that his mother had also been hit by a foul ball at a Yankee game by then Yankee second baseman (and former Twin) Chuck Knoblauch. We wrote a post about it on May 17. K.O. also mentioned that Bob Feller threw a pitch in Chicago on Mother’s Day in 1939 that was fouled off and hit his mother. He went on to mention another player from the ’30s who hit his mother with a foul ball, then hit her again with another foul as she was being carried off. I went to the show’s script to get the player’s name, but the story was removed. So maybe that last one never happened.

Finally, oddly enough, earlier that same day, I had bought a ticket on-line for a Minnesota-Tampa game in Minneapolis on July 3. Why did I do that? Because I will be visiting my mother that week. However, I don’t think I’ll take her to the ballpark! – R

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Moves and White Feathers

Posted on April 3, 2010 by Trish and Rob


Major transitions often initiate synchronicities – marriage or divorce, the birth of a child, a death, career change, or, as in the next story, a move. This synchronicity is from Julie Ralphs of Nottringham, England.
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We have recently moved after many years of my husband being reluctant to move. We put our house on the market and within a week had an offer. It was from a young couple who lived in the next town 30 miles away.

When their contact details came through, my mother-in-law was with me and I asked her if she knew where they lived as she had lived in the town 25 years before. She said  she knew of the road, but what was the number? When I told her, she explained it was across the road from her best friend of 40 years, the only person in that town with whom she has kept in touch.

 We quickly found a house to view and fell in love with it. It was in a better part of the same village, on a road that my husband had always liked. He described the house to his younger brother, even down to the secret cupboards in the bedrooms, and learned that when my husband’s family moved to the village 25 years ago, his brother viewed the property with their parents. They didn’t buy it because it had a steep drive. This meant a lot to my husband, who had lost his father suddenly over a year ago, as he knew that his Dad had seen the house.

A  few months earlier I had visited a medium who said I would move and that the house would have an orchard in the garden. It has an apple tree, but the house is built on farm land that was used as orchards for fruit growing. The day we moved in, I  was talking to my mum in the kitchen and the removals men were bringing boxes into the house. Mum looked at the worktop where we were sitting and said ‘look a white feather’. I didn’t know what this meant then, but she said it signified ‘someone watching over us.’ I’d like to think it was my father-in-law.”
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The white feather is intriguing. I first read about this phenomenon on Mike Perry’s blog.


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Until Death Do Us Part?

Posted on April 2, 2010 by Trish and Rob

 Synchronicities tend to occur frequently during major transitions in our lives – a move, a marriage or divorce, the birth of a child, a career change, and death, the biggest transition of all. This next story comes from Joanna.  We posted a similar synchronicity in early January, so I now wonder how many stories like this there may be.
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I don’t know that the following is “synchronicity”, but it involves Andy, a  relative I’ve featured on my blog. .  Out of respect for his widow Dotty, a very dear friend and also a follower of  my blog, I can’t post it there, even as an update.

Dotty is  an absolute saint, truly, and twelve years Andy’s junior with two children  by an abusive first husband that she’d finally managed to divorce before they met. Andy and first wife Kate, a total whack job, also had two children – a son and a daughter, but were  already separated when he met Dotty. Naturally, Andy’s kids stayed with  their mother after the divorce and  were thoroughly brainwashed by her that  Dotty was to blame. They wouldn’t even acknowledge Dotty’s presence when they visited Andy.

And so it went for the next 35 years.

Old age set in and Andy’s deteriorating health required him to go to a nursing home. Dotty visited him there every day, all day, only going home for an hour or two between meals, and after tucking him in around 7:30. She never missed a day, even when  the weather was bad. She truly  fulfilled the marriage vow ‘in sickness and in health’.  She also sat in on every meeting with Andy’s doctors and took detailed notes.

First wife Kate had remarried, and for several years she and the second husband had been in a  nursing home 100 miles away, both in “perfect” health except for advanced Alzheimer’s.

Andy and Kate’s son, whom we’ll call George (or perhaps Super Jerk)  was the CEO of his own company in a city 30 miles beyond where Kate was. He was a total control freak, used to people doing whatever he ordered.  Once amonth or so he’d make the trek to see Andy for a couple of hours, always during  Dotty’s breaks.  At one time or another, he vowed to fire Andy’s doctors, which he didn’t have the authority to do.  He also ordered Dotty to sell her and Andy’s  house “right now” and move him to the same nursing home Kate was in.

Dotty, of course, did none of these things. She told George very firmly that she wouldn’t. She got her and Andy’s affairs in order. Together, they  picked out a burial plot and a stone, made their funeral wishes known, and verified that  their wills and her power of attorney were airtight.

Andy was 86 when he entered the home, and doctors were certain he wouldn’t last three months, six at the most.  That was 15 months ago.  We were all sure he wouldn’t make it to 87 let alone 88 (last month), and came to believe he simply willed himself to live despite more than a dozen health issues, any two of which would have  killed a “normal” man.

But there’s another possibility – that he secretly vowed to outlive the hated ex-wife who’d poisoned their children against his beloved Dotty.

In the wee hours of Tuesday morning a week ago, 88-yr-old Kate died in her sleep.  It was a total surprise to everyone  because physically, she was “healthy as a horse”. The second surprise was she and her second husband had made NO funeral or burial arrangements whatsoever.  The son and wife spent the next 3 days scurrying around making arrangements.  On Friday evening, they were on the way to the viewing when
Dotty called to say Andy had died a few hours earlier.

Right after Kate’s funeral, George, the son, was hospitalized with a bleeding ulcer, but got out in time to attend Andy’s viewing Monday evening. The third surprise was on  arriving at the funeral home, he hugged Dotty thy like a long-lost friend and apologized profusely for treating her so badly for 30-some years.

What are the “chances” that a man and woman who hated each other, divorced 35+years years ago and had had no contact in that time, would die 3 days apart? Is this “synchronicity” or a very effective karmic lesson delivered on the son by the  Universe?
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These kinds of stories remind me of a Mobius strip, thus the image by M.C. Escher.

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Johnny B. Good in my e-mail…Yikes!

Posted on April 1, 2010 by Trish and Rob

 He-e-e-r-r-e-e-‘s Johnny!

You might recall the post on Feb. 4 about Johnny B. Goode, the West Palm Beach fellow who keeps getting arrested for minor public annoyances. We mentioned him again in March when we wrote about Robin Hood, another guy with a famous name who is also in repeated trouble with the law–although we suspected, or hoped, he gave away some of the goods he stole, since who needs three of the same baseball caps.

So, when I received an e-mail from Johnny B. Good, with no ‘e,’ I wondered if Johnny from West Palm got on line and did a Google search for his name. But not the case. In fact, this is another Johnny B. Good, possibly a nom de plume for a young man residing in Lisbon, Portugal. The e-mail led me to a Facebook synchronicity site that I’ve visited.

Johnny B posted a story about how he was stuck in traffic recently and noticed a colorfully painted van nearby. The next day, in another part of the city of two million, he parked his vehicle, got out, and there, parked close by, was the same van. He was amazed and baffled and before walking off jotted down the e-mail address that was on the side of the van. Then he asked readers what it meant and if they thought he should contact the owner of the van.

I told him that maybe the synchronicity was about awareness, reminding him of the hidden magical nature of reality. I added: “But you never know what might happen by contacting the owner of the vehicle. That might lead to yet another synchronicity. Good luck!”

So, Johnny B Good decided to act, and later posted an update. “I contacted the painter by email, got her reply and saw some of her paintings on her blog. Two of her main themes are called: “The Magic of Chance and the Magic of Life :-)”

So, I would say, no, that was no mere coincidence. It was synchronicity, and we have to wonder if there is more to follow between those two.
R

This synchronicity marks a kind of milestone: post #500. We’re grateful to all of you for the synchronicities, insights, and comments you have contributed. We hope that you have learned as much as we have from this sometimes baffling and always illuminating phenomenon.

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