
Recently, I have been thinking quite a bit about the nature of love. According to some spiritual experts, it’s the most powerful emotion in the known universe. It’s supposedly what you commit to when you get married, it’s what you feel when you have a child, and yes, it has allegedly been known to move mountains, although I haven’t yet found any scientific evidence of that. But here is what I have found. It is not strictly a human thing. It exists among dogs. It crosses species boundaries. It undoubtedly has a past life component.
Let’s start with the dogs. Maybe we’ll end there, too.
Three years ago, in November of 2009, we bought Noah, our golden retriever, from the South Florida Golden Retriever Rescue Center. He had spent most of his nine months in a crate, to be used as a stud. The people who owned him also owned his parents and when they ran into financial difficulties, they gave up all three dogs. So Noah, who was then called Presley, arrived at our home, he was still groggy from his trip to the vet that morning where he was neutered. He wobbled into our kitchen with the woman from the rescue center, and instantly bonded with Rob. He was the same rich red color as our previous golden, Jessie, who had died a year earlier after her eleven-year run with our family.
From the start, Noah had issues. He was scared of everything and everyone, except for Rob, and later on, me. One day, we went to the gym and left him for an hour in the house. When we returned, we discovered he had destroyed a couch cushion – I mean, he had decimated this sucker, torn out the stuffing, reduced the cushion to history. We put him outside while we cleaned up the mess and seriously discussed returning him to the rescue organization.
But, we’re optimists. We kept him. And gradually, as he became more socialized through daily trips to the dog park and contact with humans who just wanted to love on him, he grew into the family. He still barked at our daughter, Megan, when she came home for visits, but it seemed to be something about her exuberant energy that freaked him out – and her blond hair. Yes, I know they say that dogs don’t see in color, but I think a blonde haired woman had abused Noah in his previous home, perhaps with a newspaper. He used to be terrified of the newspaper, but Rob worked with him and now he bounds outside every morning to scoop it off the driveway and bring it inside. For a treat, of course.
After Megan graduated from college, she came home to live while she applied for jobs in her field and worked at various part-time jobs. In early September 2011, she said, “Hey, Mom, let’s go look for a puppy. I would love to have a puppy.”
I am a total sucker for these words. My best animal companions have come from these random excursions. So Megan and I headed over to Big Dog Ranch and found a puppy that captured both of us. They told us she was a border collie mixed with lab. Her DNA Internet test said she was a Pomeranian mix. Never spend the $ for this test. Nika is obviously not a Pom. She’s a Heinz 57, a Ketchup of border collie, lab, Australian cattle dog, Greyhound… whatever. For us, she is the personification of unconditional love. She accepts you as you are, and your species doesn’t matter.
She also ended up with mange. It manifested itself at about four months, until Nika was as bald as a radish. Our wonderful vet prescribed Promeris and kept a close eye on her and now, at 16 months, she is mange free.
When Megan landed a Disney internship at Epcot working with dolphins, Nika stayed with us. She and Noah played together, ate together, slept together. Nine long and beautiful months. Then Megan’s internship ended in June 2012 and she started a dogwalking business and Nika moved to Orlando with Megan.
At least once a month, we visited Megan or she visited us or we met in Cassadaga and, of course we brought the dogs. Every time these two dogs were reunited, beautiful things happened. One time Megan pulled into a B&B near Cassadaga and Nika leaped out of the window of a moving car to get to Noah. Always, they seemed to pick up just where they had left off, just as we humans do, commiserating, planning, enjoying.
Megan and Nika were here for a week for Thanksgiving and both dogs were really in their element. After all, Obama had swept the election, the humans were optimistic, their lives were branching out in new directions, things were looking good. For Nika, who has become an urban apartment dog, it was a chance to go in and out whenever she wanted, For Noah, it was about Nika.

The relationship between these two is really indescribable. Both of the dogs accept our three cats – and vice versa. Cats aren’t the issue. The issue is separation. Nika is clearly Megan’s dog, she is her human. But it’s equally clear that Nika loves her Noah and that Noah loves his Nika and…here we are. An impasse.
Love and its obstacles. And hey, it’s not like either of these dogs can act on whatever they’re feeling for each other. Both are neutered. This is some strange and wonderful soul connection, two dogs, three humans, and well, we’ll see. Nika mange free. Noah is humanized.
Here’s Nika, navigating for Rob. Noah’s head is to the left of hers. If he could fit up here, too, he would be right next to her.
