Part of Megan’s graduation present was a virtual Hicks workshop, which she watched in its entirety on May 28, with Rob and I popping in now and then to catch glimpses of it. Last night and this evening, – May 30-31 – Rob and I watched the entire workshop, which is available for 48 hours after the actual live event. This was our second virtual workshop and it was enormously powerful. We wrote about the first one here.
During this workshop, the individuals who were chosen to come forward to the “hot seat,” where they talk one on one with Abraham, were primarily men. This statistic struck me as significant. Two years ago, when I attended my first and only actual live workshop, nearly everyone in the audience was female. These gentlemen ran the gamut in ages, occupations, life experiences, cultures, backgrounds, ethnicities.
The exchange that made the strongest impact on me was between Abraham and a man probably in his thirties who started off by saying that as a result of his work with the Abraham material, his life had improved immeasurably. He talked about practicing “rampaging appreciation,” and gave a wonderful example. While driving on the Garden State Parkway, he felt enormous appreciation for the road – its smoothness, the speed at which he could drive, the sky above it, the whole nine yards. He was, he said, “in the vortex.”
This vortex is like a spinning cauldron of energy that contains the best of who we are, every desire we have ever had, every thought we have thought, every dream we have or have ever had. When we line up with it vibrationally, our dreams begin to manifest themselves. When we are outside the vortex, we feel discomfort, pain, angst. A few days later, he had to drive the parkway again – and discovered it had been repaved, so now it was even better, there was more to appreciate. From this, he went into a story about watching sports from inside the vortex, how he was watching some game on TV when suddenly people in the stadium started chanting, USA, USA, USA – and discovered that Bin Laden had been assassinated. He instantly fell out of the vortex and spent the next two days in a funk.
Abraham asked him why he felt that way. “Because this event was huge,” the man said.
No, it wasn’t, Abraham said. It wasn’t huge enough or small enough to knock him out of his feelings of well-being. The people who cheered the death of Bin Laden, a man who hadn’t been a threat to anyone for years, Abraham said, felt empowered because they basically feel powerless in their own lives. This statement struck me.
The night I heard the news about Bin Laden, I sure wasn’t in any vortex. Megan had broken her foot the night before and we were holed up in a hotel room, hoping to get into to see an orthopedic doc the next day. Listening to Obama that night, hearing the cheers outside the White House, the chants of USA, depressed me. People were cheering an assassination.
A couple of weeks later, during Megan’s graduation weekend, I was discussing this with my sister’s New Guy. I suspected he was a Republican who upheld the agenda that makes me nuts, but couldn’t resist pushing against that to draw him out into a conversation. I regret doing so. I had even started writing a post about New Guy and our conversation that entailed the Republican agenda to dismantle Medicare, Social Security, and every other “socialist” program – you know, pubic education, fire departments, police departments. In the writing, I realized I was pushing against him and that belief system, and by doing so, was inviting more of the same into my life.
As Abraham pointed out, each of us is coming from a different place. What works for you may not work for me. My job is to line up vibrationally with my highest good. “You are in the time of awakening,” he said.
So from now on, if I meet people like New Guy (who is now an ex for my sister), I vow to keep my mouth zipped. I won’t invite confrontation. I’ll talk about fluff and stuff, the weather and how was your plane trip. I’ll try to find something to appreciate about the person. I’ll try to understand why I have attracted this person into my life and what I’m supposed to learn. By withdrawing my attention from what I don’t like – like New Guy, like people cheering the assassination of Bin Laden – such experiences will become non-existent. Or, at any rate, that’s how it’s supposed to work.
The toughest part for me, though, will be keeping my mouth shut. If I’m talking to someone who glorifies war, supports the invasion of sovereign countries, the dismantling of social programs that actually help people stay afloat, and no rise in taxes on the wealthiest two percent, my lesser self will be tempted to go for the jugular. C’mon, dude, argue with me, show me your true colors. That lesser self revels in such a discussion with a zealot of any persuasion. But my higher self is getting tired of discourse that doesn’t change minds at either end if the spectrum.
“We’re all in this together,” Abraham said.
Well, yes, we are. Maybe that’s the ticket. The next time I meet a New Guy, I’ll hug him hello, welcome him into the family fold, find something about him to appreciate, and that will be that.
One can dream, right?


















